Love: The High Road

Love: The High Road — By Lynette Hagin

“Love . . . is patient and kind. . . . Love (God’s love in us) . . . is ever ready to believe the best of every person.”
—1 Corinthians 13:4–5, 7 (Amplified)

Whenever I think of February, I think of love and Valentine’s Day. On February 14, many people celebrate the love of their life, and it is certainly wonderful to do that. Yet it is more important that we learn to practice love in our lives on a daily basis.

Many people refer to First Corinthians 13 as “the love chapter.” Too often, we want to skip over reading that part of the Bible. I admit I have felt that way at times, but the Lord continues to lead me to read it. In fact, whenever my husband and I perform a marriage ceremony, I always read this portion of chapter 13 to the bride and groom:

1 CorinthianS 13:4–7 (Amplified)
4 Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.
5 It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].
6 It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.
7 Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening].

Put It Into Practice

If we would practice this passage daily, we could live peaceful, productive lives. The problem is, our flesh often gets in the way. Instead of ignoring injustices that are done to us, we want to get even; instead of walking in love, we want to repay evil for evil.

One of the things I witnessed in the life of my father-in-law, Kenneth E. Hagin, was that he not only taught about the love walk, he truly lived it. He never considered getting even. At times, my husband and I got exasperated when we heard others criticize and say hurtful things about our family or ministry. Sometimes we expressed our feelings to my father-in-law, but he would tell us, “Don’t ever stoop to their level; always walk the high road.” I’m forever grateful for his example and for his being straightforward with us. I still hear those words ringing in my ears when I’m tempted to take the low road and return evil for evil.

The test of walking in love is not something we pass one time and never have to experience again. The fact is, our love walk will be tested continually. Sometimes it seems as if I experience those kinds of tests on a daily basis!

Learn to Talk It Out

Life is too short to live in constant turmoil in your home. This holds true regarding your relationships with friends as well. When strife arises in our relationships, we can deal wisely with it and keep First Corinthians 13:4–7 as our foundation.

We can learn something about this from the Apostle Paul. The church at Corinth was suffering from such strife within it that he had to remind the members, “Be perfect, be of good comfort, be of one mind, live in peace; and the God of love and peace shall be with you” (2 Cor. 13:11). I believe we should adopt as our family motto, “Be of one mind. Live in peace.”

In order to live out that instruction from Paul, we must learn to communicate effectively with others, beginning with our spouses and children. Communication is often the most difficult skill to master, because we can experience so many different emotions when we are sharing our thoughts and feelings. Paul talked about this in Ephesians 4:26–27: “Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil.” “Be angry and sin not” sounds like a contradictory statement, but it isn’t. The Lord knows that anger is one of the emotions we experience in life, yet He tells us, “Although you may be feeling angry, do not sin.” What exactly does that mean?

When we choose the high road—love—it causes peace to reign in our relationships and in our lives.

You may experience angry feelings, but don’t use those feelings to get even. In the midst of anger, you might say words that you may not really mean, but those cutting words will forever ring in the ears of the recipient.

Take the High Road

When we choose the high road—love—it causes peace to reign in our relationships and in our lives.

It’s important to express your love and appreciation for your family and friends on a continual basis. My husband and I make it a point to say “I love you” to each other many times a day, and I often say that to my children and grandchildren. We all need to be reassured of the love others have for us, and we need to reassure others of our love for them.

You may not have heard anyone say to you, “I love you,” very often in your childhood, and you may find it awkward to say those words yourself. But I encourage you that if you’ll start saying, “I love you,” to people you care about, each time you repeat those words, they will become easier to say and more natural to you.

You can begin right now by determining that every day—not just on Valentine’s Day—you will walk in love and express words of love to your family and friends.


Faith in Action


My husband and I have been married 47 years, so I can offer you some lessons that I’ve learned from experience. I believe that following this advice will enhance your marriage journey. (It can also be applied to your relationships with others.)
• Communicate your feelings and frustrations without getting upset.
• Communicate honestly.
• Choose your words carefully.
• Don’t use degrading language. Use words that convey love.
• Communicate with your spouse as you would with a friend.
• Resolve your problems before you go to bed.
• Choose your battles, and overlook minor issues.
• Realize that some things will not change, so accept them.

We have practiced these guidelines over the years. I will not pretend that we perfected them overnight. But as we began to practice these principles, we found that peace continually reigned in our home.